Posts tagged ‘self help’

Losing your marbles

I don’t know where this came from (if anyone would enlighten me that would be great!), this is pure inspiration for those of us who really do want to live life the best way we can. I’d love to hear your comments!

Fill a jar with marbles todayA few weeks ago, I was shuffling toward the kitchen with a steaming cup of coffee in one hand and the morning paper in the other. What began as a typical Saturday morning turned into one of those lessons that life seems to hand you from time to time. Let me tell you about it.

I turned the volume up on my radio in order to listen to a Saturday morning talk show. I heard an older sounding chap with a golden voice. You know the kind, he sounded like he should be in the broadcasting business himself.

He was talking about “a thousand marbles” to someone named “Tom.” I was intrigued and sat down to listen to what he had to say.

“Well, Tom, it sure sounds like you’re busy with your job. I’m sure they pay you well but it’s a shame you have to be away from home and your Family so much. Hard to believe a young fellow should have to work sixty or seventy hours a week to make ends meet. Too bad you missed your daughter’s dance recital.”

He continued, “Let me tell you something Tom, something that has helped me keep a good perspective on my own priorities.”

And that’s when he began to explain his theory of “a thousand marbles”

“You see, I sat down one day and did a little arithmetic. The average person lives about seventy-five years. I know, some live more and some live less, but on average, folks live about seventy-five years.”

“Now then, I multiplied 75 times 52 and I came up with 3900 which is the number of Saturdays that the average person has in their entire lifetime. Now stick with me Tom, I’m getting to the important part.”

“It took me until I was fifty-five years old to think about all this in any detail,” he went on, “and by that time I had lived through over twenty-eight hundred Saturdays. I got to thinking that if I lived to be seventy-five, I only had about a thousand of them left to enjoy.”

“So I went to a toy store and bought every single marble they had. I ended up having to visit three toy stores to roundup 1000 marbles. I took them home and put them inside of a large, clear plastic container right here in my workshop next to the radio. Every Saturday since then, I have taken one marble out and have thrown it away”

“I found that by watching the marbles diminish, I focused more on the really important things in life. There is nothing like watching your time here on this earth run out to help get your priorities straight.”

“Now let me tell you one last thing before I sign-off with you and take my lovely wife out for breakfast.

This morning, I took the very last marble out of the container. I figure if I make it until next Saturday then I have been blessed with a little extra time to be with my loved ones……

“It was nice to talk to you Tom, I hope you spend more time with your loved ones, and I hope to meet you again someday. Have a good morning!”

You could have heard a pin drop when he finished. Even the show’s moderator didn’t have anything to say for a few moments. I guess he gave us all a lot to think about. I had planned to do some work that morning, then go to the
gym. Instead, I went upstairs and woke my wife up with a kiss. “C’mon honey, I’m taking you and the kids to breakfast.”

“What brought this on?” she asked with a smile. “Oh, nothing special,” I said. “It has just been a long time since we spent a Saturday together with the kids. Hey, can we stop at a toy store while we’re out? I need to buy some marbles.”

HAVE A GREAT WEEK AND MAY ALL SATURDAYS BE SPECIAL, AND MAY YOU HAVE MANY HAPPY YEARS AFTER YOU LOSE ALL YOUR MARBLES!


Do you believe in luck?

EFT four leaf cloverI don’t believe in luck. Every time I hear someone say “oh, he/she’s lucky to be/do/have that” I get niggled. Luck has nothing to do with it.

When a child hits a tennis ball on his third week of tennis lessons, is it luck or could it just be that he is trying really hard and his hard work is paying off?

When famous golfer Gary Player had to negotiate his way out of a sand trap, he used all his powers of concentration, he focussed, rehearsed the shot mentally and when he played his shot his ball landed half a meter from the pin. A spectator shouted out to him “Hey Gary, that was a really lucky shot” and he replied “I guess you’re right, but you know, it’s a funny thing; the more I practice the better I become and the better I become, the luckier I get”

Was Thomas Edison lucky to be the inventor of the light bulb, after having tried one thousand nine hundred and ninety nine times to get it right? Or did he just stick with it and work at it again, and again, and again…. never giving up on finding new ways of how not to make a light bulb!

When a baby toddles his first six steps before landing on his bottom, we say he was so very, very clever. We hug him, kiss him, encourage him to do it again. He didn’t take his first steps because of luck. He took them because he tried again and again and again. It wasn’t luck that made him speak his first words, he practiced again and again and again. We heard him!

When we search for a four leaf clover and find one our day may get better. It is not the clover that will make our day better – our day will change as a result of our expectations.

Don’t wait for luck to make a difference in your life. Choose to feel the anticipation and the excitement of the life you want now and don’t give up. Practice! Try harder. Try again and again and again to discover new ways to live your dreams.

My evening with Deepak Chopra

My Evening with Deepak Chopra Last Saturday I spent the evening with Deepak Chopra! Well, okay so did lots of others but I am sure that noticed me….. I’d show you the picture of him signing my books but it shows the back of my head (my best side?) and he is looking in the opposite direction – never mind, there was definitely a spiritual connection somewhere!

On a more serious note, let’s talk about the mind and body connection. Two people get sick, one has a positive attitude and one doesn’t – who is more likely to get better? It’s obviously not that simple, but the reality is that the body stands a far better chance of healing itself (the job it was born to do by the way), if the mind is operating on a good healthy vibrational level. In Wayne Dyer’s book There is a Spiritual Solution to every problem, he talks about our energetic frequencies and how we are all born with the potential to have cancer and other diseases and those operating on a lower frequency level i.e. those who are depressed or angry or living with very negative emotions, are more likely to provide an environment in the body for disease to thrive. The further up the energetic scale you go, the healthier you are likely to be (or to become).

Emotion is Energy in Motion (E-Motion get it?!), if your emotions are low, then your energy is not flowing as it should and when your body energy system is not flowing freely, you are susceptable to sickness and disease.

It is not the job of the Doctor to MAKE you better. Medical practices are there to help you keep well. They are there to help you and that is the key. You need to also help yourself. Your body and mind is your responsibilty and you can make a difference to the way your body heals itself. If you have negative trauma in your past, if you have anger, hate, grief or resentment in your memory then you have it in your body. If you have it in your body it will manifest itself as sickness. Freeing yourself from the past emotionally in turn frees your body up to do what it was designed to do.

Our bodies are miracles in progress. Were you aware that the body you went to sleep in 2 nights ago is not the same body that you are in now? Did you know that we make a new liver every 6 weeks, we renew our skin every month, and 98% of all the atoms in our body are replaced every year. In 4 years your body will have replaced itself completely, right down to its last atom!

Truly hard to get your head around isn’t it. If you are interested to find out more about how our emotions affect us physically I would recommend a reading The Molecules of Emotion by Candace Pert, PhD.

I came away from my evening with Deepak with my mind bent like a pretzel. There were elements that were truly beyond me and elements that I could understand – those were the bits I liked best! I followed my instincts when I left the venue and my sat nav was still trying to find itself. I turned right instead of left and got stuck in the centre of Manchester trying to get out at 11pm on a Saturday night! Ho hum…

It gave me time to reflect……was Deepak Chopra really wearing sparkley glasses??!

Adjusting the trim of your sail

Adjusting the trim of your sail If you are a sailor, then you will appreciate the need for keeping that ‘weather eye on the horizon’. The sea is constantly changing, forever in motion and unpredictably feminine in many ways – everything can change in a matter of minutes!

As a skilled sailor, when the conditions around you change you re-assess and you alter the set of your sail. Perhaps you’ll reach your destination as planned or maybe you’ll make the decision to make for port and take shelter until the storm passes.

Us Sailors are smart you know – on the sea…. I wonder if we are so smart on dry land, I suspect not!

Advice here is don’t wish for less problems, wish for better skills to deal with them (or something similar which I think originated from Jim Rohn).

Have a plan, set goals and be prepared to adjust the set of YOUR sails when unexpected conditions arise. Always know exactly where you are on your journey at any given time and chart your progress regularly.

Oh yes, and it’s polite not to tweak other peoples sails, even if you think they are off course – they’re on their own journey, leave them be.

Happy sailing!

Difference between a friend and a life coach

You’ve got friends and family, why do you need a Life Coach?

Your friends and family have known you for a long time. They have been with you through the thick and thin and the ups and downs of your life to date. Because of this intimacy it is sometimes difficult for someone close to support you in a way that will help you grow as the person you are today, here and now.

They are aware of all the mistakes you have made in the past. They have opinions on how you should approach certain situations and lets face it, love ‘em to bits, they think they know you better than you know yourself! This makes for little growth outside of your comfort (or non-comfort) zone, and may push the boundaries of their comfort zones also. If you change, then your relationships around you may change and that can be very unsettling for those around you.

A life coach comes into your life with no pre-conceived ideas about who you are or what you are, and are not, capable of. They are not there to judge you, or tell you how you should be doing things. Neither are they there to tell you all the things that you want to hear (oops, you probably didn’t want to hear that!). They will not hold your past over you, to be retrieved and used in evidence against you in all of those “I told you so”  moments – and there are usually a few of those!!

No, a when you choose me as your Life Coach I promise to do the following:-

  1. provide unconditional support to you, in a nonjudgemental and safe environment
  2. believe 100% in your personal ability to achieve, no matter what your history or what your friends, colleagues or family say
  3. identify the obstacles and self-limiting beliefs that have been holding you back and remove them
  4. stimulate, challenge, motivate and if that doesn’t work….bully you!!
  5. not let you off the hook or to accept excuses!
  6. be there for you
  7. GET RESULTS!!!

It doesn’t matter what position you hold in life whether a CEO, student, receptionist, homemaker, retiree – you could be anyone and I will work with you as an individual and not a label.

For more info http://www.lovingyourlife.co.uk All enquiries and coaching are completely confidential.

Fibromyalgia

As a Practitioner of EFT, Emotional Freedom Technique, I  believe that physical disease is a result of imbalances in our energy system (blockages) caused by unresolved past negative emotions.

There is a growing demand in the UK for alternative therapies as a way to support the emotional side of illness and disease. The NHS has a Directory of Complementary & Alternative Practitioners, which is made available to the public and medical practices. Your GP or medical practice MAY be open to the additional support that these therapies offer you. The mind and body work as one and addressing and healing the emotional aspects of physical illness frees the body up to promote its own healing.

For the condition of  Fibromyalgia, for example, there is no ‘cure’ other than the relief from the symptoms. Bestselling author and natural health advocate, Dr. Joseph Mercola uses EFT in his medical practice. “In my experience fibromyalgia is nearly always related to some severe emotional trauma that establishes a series of potentially devastating physical processes, which frequently incapacitate the person.”

If you would like some more information on how EFT might help you, please have a look at my website www.mindbodyeft.co.uk or if you have any questions, please email me on sarah@mindbodyeft.co.uk

For more detailed information on EFT case studies http://www.emofree.com/articles.aspx?id=19

Important note: While EFT has produced remarkable clinical results, it must still be considered to be in the experimental stage and thus practitioners and the public must take complete responsibility for their use of it. I am not a licensed health professional and I offer EFT as an Energy Therapist and Life Coach. Please consult qualified health practitioners regarding your use of EFT.

In the case of serious medical conditions or suspicious symptoms always seek the advice of your medical practitioner, before using EFT. Even if you believe you are clear of ongoing symptoms, always consult with your Doctor before giving up your medication.
Pain is a signal from your body that something is wrong. If it is being subdued by alternative therapies, and keeps returning, consult with your Doctor to understand the medical basis of that pain.