Posts tagged ‘Life Balance’

Losing your marbles

I don’t know where this came from (if anyone would enlighten me that would be great!), this is pure inspiration for those of us who really do want to live life the best way we can. I’d love to hear your comments!

Fill a jar with marbles todayA few weeks ago, I was shuffling toward the kitchen with a steaming cup of coffee in one hand and the morning paper in the other. What began as a typical Saturday morning turned into one of those lessons that life seems to hand you from time to time. Let me tell you about it.

I turned the volume up on my radio in order to listen to a Saturday morning talk show. I heard an older sounding chap with a golden voice. You know the kind, he sounded like he should be in the broadcasting business himself.

He was talking about “a thousand marbles” to someone named “Tom.” I was intrigued and sat down to listen to what he had to say.

“Well, Tom, it sure sounds like you’re busy with your job. I’m sure they pay you well but it’s a shame you have to be away from home and your Family so much. Hard to believe a young fellow should have to work sixty or seventy hours a week to make ends meet. Too bad you missed your daughter’s dance recital.”

He continued, “Let me tell you something Tom, something that has helped me keep a good perspective on my own priorities.”

And that’s when he began to explain his theory of “a thousand marbles”

“You see, I sat down one day and did a little arithmetic. The average person lives about seventy-five years. I know, some live more and some live less, but on average, folks live about seventy-five years.”

“Now then, I multiplied 75 times 52 and I came up with 3900 which is the number of Saturdays that the average person has in their entire lifetime. Now stick with me Tom, I’m getting to the important part.”

“It took me until I was fifty-five years old to think about all this in any detail,” he went on, “and by that time I had lived through over twenty-eight hundred Saturdays. I got to thinking that if I lived to be seventy-five, I only had about a thousand of them left to enjoy.”

“So I went to a toy store and bought every single marble they had. I ended up having to visit three toy stores to roundup 1000 marbles. I took them home and put them inside of a large, clear plastic container right here in my workshop next to the radio. Every Saturday since then, I have taken one marble out and have thrown it away”

“I found that by watching the marbles diminish, I focused more on the really important things in life. There is nothing like watching your time here on this earth run out to help get your priorities straight.”

“Now let me tell you one last thing before I sign-off with you and take my lovely wife out for breakfast.

This morning, I took the very last marble out of the container. I figure if I make it until next Saturday then I have been blessed with a little extra time to be with my loved ones……

“It was nice to talk to you Tom, I hope you spend more time with your loved ones, and I hope to meet you again someday. Have a good morning!”

You could have heard a pin drop when he finished. Even the show’s moderator didn’t have anything to say for a few moments. I guess he gave us all a lot to think about. I had planned to do some work that morning, then go to the
gym. Instead, I went upstairs and woke my wife up with a kiss. “C’mon honey, I’m taking you and the kids to breakfast.”

“What brought this on?” she asked with a smile. “Oh, nothing special,” I said. “It has just been a long time since we spent a Saturday together with the kids. Hey, can we stop at a toy store while we’re out? I need to buy some marbles.”

HAVE A GREAT WEEK AND MAY ALL SATURDAYS BE SPECIAL, AND MAY YOU HAVE MANY HAPPY YEARS AFTER YOU LOSE ALL YOUR MARBLES!


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Will You Listen Today?

EFT listening
When we listen to people talk about their experiences and the choices they have made, do we really listen? I mean do we listen without making it personal. Personal, about us?

When we hear someone else’s story, our brain computes the information (or our perception of the information) and searches through it’s ‘My Life Experiences database’ to find something to match. It helps us to understand. When our brain finds the information it thinks it is looking for, we have instant access to ‘our story’.

Our story is sometimes bigger and better, more dramatic, more tragic. Our listening skills are then distracted by our need – need for acknowledgement of our experiences. Or maybe our story is smaller, not so interesting or exciting, no wow factor and the we feel, unimportant and dull thus being distracted with feelings of inadequacy, resentment and jealousy.

Are we still listening in all of this? And what about when we believe we know what’s best for others? That’s a good distraction too!

Strong opinions over the way other people live their live and loves are a reflection of what is going on inside of us at that particular time. We may believe that we know what is better for them, because we are close to them, have known them for a while or because, lets face it, we just know we know better! But, you cannot truly know if someone should be doing something differently. You can only know that if you were in that person’s shoes you might do that something differently.

And that makes a difference. Truth is, you are not in that person’s shoes.

To be in their shoes, you would have had to have lived their life. To have had their parents. To have gone to the same schools and colleges. Got the same grades and gone on to get the same job. To have had all of their experiences. To have had all of their heartaches, joys and celebrations. To have experienced all of their insecurities, their love, their hate. To have had their first success, their first failure. To have made exactly the same choices as them, involving exactly the same people at exactly the same time. Unless you are living in a parallel universe, you are not in that person’s shoes, and you never will be.

We are all different and we all have something to contribute. We are all born with a place in the world and we can all make a difference to those around us.

I wonder how many people I will listen to today 🙂 how about you?

Difference between a friend and a life coach

You’ve got friends and family, why do you need a Life Coach?

Your friends and family have known you for a long time. They have been with you through the thick and thin and the ups and downs of your life to date. Because of this intimacy it is sometimes difficult for someone close to support you in a way that will help you grow as the person you are today, here and now.

They are aware of all the mistakes you have made in the past. They have opinions on how you should approach certain situations and lets face it, love ‘em to bits, they think they know you better than you know yourself! This makes for little growth outside of your comfort (or non-comfort) zone, and may push the boundaries of their comfort zones also. If you change, then your relationships around you may change and that can be very unsettling for those around you.

A life coach comes into your life with no pre-conceived ideas about who you are or what you are, and are not, capable of. They are not there to judge you, or tell you how you should be doing things. Neither are they there to tell you all the things that you want to hear (oops, you probably didn’t want to hear that!). They will not hold your past over you, to be retrieved and used in evidence against you in all of those “I told you so”  moments – and there are usually a few of those!!

No, a when you choose me as your Life Coach I promise to do the following:-

  1. provide unconditional support to you, in a nonjudgemental and safe environment
  2. believe 100% in your personal ability to achieve, no matter what your history or what your friends, colleagues or family say
  3. identify the obstacles and self-limiting beliefs that have been holding you back and remove them
  4. stimulate, challenge, motivate and if that doesn’t work….bully you!!
  5. not let you off the hook or to accept excuses!
  6. be there for you
  7. GET RESULTS!!!

It doesn’t matter what position you hold in life whether a CEO, student, receptionist, homemaker, retiree – you could be anyone and I will work with you as an individual and not a label.

For more info http://www.lovingyourlife.co.uk All enquiries and coaching are completely confidential.

Fibromyalgia

As a Practitioner of EFT, Emotional Freedom Technique, I  believe that physical disease is a result of imbalances in our energy system (blockages) caused by unresolved past negative emotions.

There is a growing demand in the UK for alternative therapies as a way to support the emotional side of illness and disease. The NHS has a Directory of Complementary & Alternative Practitioners, which is made available to the public and medical practices. Your GP or medical practice MAY be open to the additional support that these therapies offer you. The mind and body work as one and addressing and healing the emotional aspects of physical illness frees the body up to promote its own healing.

For the condition of  Fibromyalgia, for example, there is no ‘cure’ other than the relief from the symptoms. Bestselling author and natural health advocate, Dr. Joseph Mercola uses EFT in his medical practice. “In my experience fibromyalgia is nearly always related to some severe emotional trauma that establishes a series of potentially devastating physical processes, which frequently incapacitate the person.”

If you would like some more information on how EFT might help you, please have a look at my website www.mindbodyeft.co.uk or if you have any questions, please email me on sarah@mindbodyeft.co.uk

For more detailed information on EFT case studies http://www.emofree.com/articles.aspx?id=19

Important note: While EFT has produced remarkable clinical results, it must still be considered to be in the experimental stage and thus practitioners and the public must take complete responsibility for their use of it. I am not a licensed health professional and I offer EFT as an Energy Therapist and Life Coach. Please consult qualified health practitioners regarding your use of EFT.

In the case of serious medical conditions or suspicious symptoms always seek the advice of your medical practitioner, before using EFT. Even if you believe you are clear of ongoing symptoms, always consult with your Doctor before giving up your medication.
Pain is a signal from your body that something is wrong. If it is being subdued by alternative therapies, and keeps returning, consult with your Doctor to understand the medical basis of that pain.

Free EFT to help with the emotional side of cancer

Today, the news headlines say “depression cuts cancer survival”  See article The researchers of the University of British Columbia team say (in studies including 9,417 patients) that death rates were up to 25% higher in patients showing symptoms of depression. Further into the article they say researchers stressed that “overall, the increased risk of dying from cancer due to depression was small – so patients should not feel they had to maintain a positive attitude to beat their disease”.

When we hear and read all of the inspirational stories of men and women who have beaten cancer, I feel there is little doubt that we can see these individuals have taken on and won the emotional battle as well as the physical disease.

A body that is emotionally free of trauma stands a better chance of healing. It is what it is designed to do.

I use EFT – Emotional Freedom Technique, working with Clients on emotional issues from the past (usually suppressed) which are holding them back in the present. When you have negative emotions/experiences, they cause blockages in your bodies energetic system  (think of beaver dams in rivers, blocking the flow of water) and this may contribute and/or cause physical disease. By stimulating the ends of certain meridian energy points, whilst focussing on emotions that come up, we can balance the bodies energy system and get the energy to flow normally again, freeing the body up to do what it is naturally designed to do – heal itself.

I have chosen to do a small percentage of my work without charge. If you are a cancer patient in that place right now, and you can feel that there is a chink of light inside, of sense of hope. If you think that you can help your body heal, by letting go of emotional traumas from the past, then I would like to see if I can help you. I am offering this as a voluntary service. No fee. Just help. Have a look at my website www.mindbodyEFT.co.uk and send me an email if you are interested. I am registered as a complimentary therapist with the NHS – please see FAQ on website

Closer to, or further away, from your goal today?

I feel like a real juggler at the moment. Two businesses to run, a child to parent and a house to renovate!

I know my weaknesses! I can be very good at keeping myself busy in order to delay making a start on a project that I don’t want to start!

One of the items on my list of ‘things to do before Christmas’ is to remove an old en-suite, which is really a bog in a cupboard, to make room for something new and lovely. For this to happen I need to remove a partition wall. I have been putting it off and putting it off since the beginning of summer. This change is part of an update to my top floor, which needs to be completed by Christmas, so that when my family come and stay, everyone gets a room to sleep in.

So yesterday, I called my plumber to disconnect some old radiators and today I approached my task with an enthusiastic lump hammer!

The point to my sharing this with you is this… the reason for my not starting was that I hadn’t got hold of my plumber. Did I say reason? I meant excuse!

The question I asked myself yesterday was this… “If I don’t make that call to my plumber – is that taking me closer to, or further away from my goal?” Job done. Simples! A small step to get the ball rolling and away we go.

What did you put off doing today? By not doing it, you made a choice. Did that choice take you closer to or further away from your goal?

Right now my goal is to get all the dust and debris out of my hair!


Calling all working parents, we’ve all been here..

A man came home from work late, tired and irritated, to find his 5-year old son waiting for him at the door.

SON: ‘ Daddy, may I ask you a question?’

DAD: ‘Yeah sure, what it is?’ replied the man.

SON: ‘ Daddy, how much do you make an hour?’

DAD: ‘That’s none of your business. Why do you ask such a thing?’ the man said angrily.

SON: ‘I just want to know. Please tell me, how much do you make an hour?’

DAD: ‘If you must know, I make $50 an hour.’

SON: ‘Oh,’ the little boy replied, with his head down.

SON: ‘ Daddy, may I please borrow $25?’

The father was furious, ‘If the only reason you asked that is so you can borrow some money to buy a silly toy or some

other nonsense, then you march yourself straight to your room and go to bed. Think about why you are being so selfish.

I don’t work hard everyday for such childish frivolity’s.’

The little boy quietly went to his room and shut the door.

The man sat down and started to get even angrier about the little boy’s questions. How dare he ask such questions only

to get some money?

After about an hour or so, the man had calmed down , and started to think:

Maybe there was something he really needed to buy with that $25.00 and he really didn’t ask for money very often The man went to the door of the little boy’s room and opened the door.

‘Are you asleep, son?’ He asked.

‘No daddy, I’m awake,’ replied the boy.

‘I’ve been thinking, maybe I was too hard on you earlier’ said the man. ‘It’s been a long day and I took out my

aggravation on you. Here’s the $25 you asked for.’

The little boy sat straight up, smiling. ‘Oh, thank you daddy!’ he yelled. Then, reaching under his pillow he pulled

out some crumpled up bills.

The man saw that the boy already had money, started to get angry again.

The little boy slowly counted out his money, and then looked up at his father.

‘Why do you want more money if you already have some?’ the father grumbled.

‘Because I didn’t have enough, but now I do,’ the little boy replied.

‘ Daddy, I have $50 now. Can I buy an hour of your time? Please come home early tomorrow. I would like to have

dinner with you.’

The father was crushed. He put his arms around his little son, and he begged for his forgiveness.

It’s just a short reminder to all of you working so hard in life. We should not let time slip through our fingers without having spent some time with those who really matter to us, those close to our hearts. Do remember to share that $50 worth of your time with someone you love.

If we die tomorrow, the company that we are working for could easily replace us in a matter of hours. But the family & friends we leave behind will feel the loss for the rest of their lives.