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Throw your pebbles away

pebblesDid your day have a bad start this morning? Who do you blame? The kids, the alarm clock, the economy, the weather, the car, the traffic, the traffic lights, the road works? Will you get home tonight in a bad mood? Who will you blame? Your boss, your collegues, the kids, the economy, the car, the traffic, the traffic lights, the road works?

After an Evening with Deepak Chopra, in September I queued up with everyone else at the ticket machine in the carpark. After spending 3 hours in a, never to repeated (for some) inspirational, potentially life changing environment, it didn’t take long – maybe 15 minutes tops, for people to start moaning! Blaming the long queues on the inadequate number of ticket machines. Blaming the slow people in front of them who didn’t have the right money or the even slower ones who were confused as to how the machine worked anyway! They moaned, but they didn’t help!

The world is not perfect. It never has been and it never will be. There will always be bad news on the TV, there will always be problems with the government, there will always be problems with housing markets and unemployment. There will always be problems with starvation and disease. There will always be poverty. There will always be businesses going under. There will always be job losses. There will always be death. There will always be tragedy. There will always be natural disasters. There will always be climate change. There will always be leaks in the roof, cars that won’t start, people that push buttons. There will always be ……

…. there will always be opportunities.

If we don’t like a politician, let’s accept it and give our focus and energy to the politician that we do like and trust. If we are troubled by the ‘badness’ in the world, then let us focus on doing something good – better still let us do random acts of kindness for no reward, acknowledgement or praise! Let’s choose to be unconditional for a day, with no judgement or critism. Notice how many times we have to stop ourselves from having a moan or a dig at someone or something else. Let’s congratulate ourselves for noticing how well we are doing. Reward ourselves for making the conscious effort to do things differently.

I was once asked why I don’t participate in anti-war demonstrations. I said that I will never do that, but as soon as you have a pro-peace rally, I’ll be there.
Mother Teresa

We  will always have choices.

We are all individuals making up the whole. Instead find fault in the world outside of us, let’s choose to look inside. Choose to take responsibility for our part in the world, that is the part we can truly make a difference with. Choose to know that everyone immediately in it, is affected by us and our choices.

Moaning is easy and lazy.

Today, choose to notice every time you have something negative to say about someone or something and make an effort to replace the negative with a positive. If you can’t think of anything positive, then choose not to say anything at all and instead to be grateful for something you have in your life no matter how hard that may be. If you are reading this, be grateful for the sight in your eyes.

We carry our thoughts around all day. Imagine your negative thoughts are pebbles in a back pack. The weight would soon have you feeling down and heavy. Imagine catching one negative thought, turning it into a positive and taking a pebble out of your back pack and throwing it far, far away. Knowing that with each step you take towards being more positive, you are lightening your load. Noticing that instead of trudging wearily through your day (existing) – you start walking with a spring in your step (living)!

If everyone chose to do this for one day, think what a difference it would make not just to you, but to those around you. To your relationships. To your children. To the everyone you meet in your day.

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How can EFT help with Trauma?

j0182676EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) is an energy psychology that was founded in the mid 1990’s by Gary Craig, a Stanford Engineer, following his studies with Roger Callahan in Thought Field Therapy. As the public demand for alternative medicines is growing we are starting to see and hear more and more about the successes of EFT in the Media, in many areas including PTSD.

EFT is based on the belief that all negative emotions are a result of an imbalance in the body energy system. Eastern traditions have been aware of the meridians of energy for thousands of years. The meridian network was detailed in the first medical account of acupuncture in The Yellow Emperor’s Classic of Internal Medicine, which dates from the Han Dynasty (206 BCE to 220 ACE). A simple way to describe EFT would be that it is like emotional acupuncture, without the needles.

An EFT therapist works by tapping (teaching the Client to tap) with the fingertips on certain meridian points, stimulating the blocked energy so that is starts flowing freely again. Whilst tapping, the Client focusses on negative feelings, thoughts and emotions and experiences rapid and often long lasting relief, as the body and mind become calmed and energetically balanced.

One of the areas that EFT is most effective in is Trauma. When you experience a traumatic event, it is stored not only in your memory but in your body also. It is not uncommon for sickness and disease to be diagnosed shortly after the experience of trauma. The mind and body operate as one.

The mind is not able to tell the difference between what is happening in the present moment and what is a memory. It can be triggered by anything which it perceives as a threat and the body reacts instinctively in order to protect us. You may experience physical symptoms such as increased heart rate, sweating, shaking, nightmares, insomnia, mood swings, memories of destruction, pain or death, tensions or pain in the body.

For example, if you were the driver who had survived a severe car crash, and before the moment of impact you saw in the rear view mirror a red truck hurtling towards you, then the chances are, in the future (if you ever drive again), when you look into the rearview mirror and see a red truck coming up behind you, you will experience the same rush of physical symptoms that you had just before the original accident.

If you were beaten or abused as a child (or adult) you may be triggered by a smell, a location, a tone of voice or a facial expression and you would immediately feel an emotional intensity.

An EFT Therapist would guide you through these emotional and physical intensities. You would recall the traumatic memory and tap on the meridian points to calm down any anxieties that come up as a result. It is important to work with an experienced Therapist as they will have been trained in techniques such as the Tearless Trauma Technique which allow you, the client, to recall any incident in a safe and pain free environment.

Sometimes relief is experienced almost immediately. The memory is not taken away, instead the negative emotions are neutralized so that you do not have to relive the physical symptoms of the trauma over and over again, as if you were there.

EFT does not replace medical treatments and you should always seek advice from your Doctor before using EFT, this is especially important if you have depression.

Here are some interesting video links, showing EFT sessions live

Video interview with Celia Kane,  diagnosed with PTSD, Fibromyalgia and Chronic Fatigue Syndrome

Video footage was recorded working with War Veterans from Vietnam and Iraq and shows clearly how EFT works with PTSD go to http://www.emofree.com/freevideos.aspx and click on the video EFT for War Veterans.

This lady took part of one of Gary Craig’s earlier training workshops and this session was recorded with permission and is included in Gary’s DVD library. It shows just how EFT helped her with her childhood sexual abuse.

For more information on EFT and a whole library of information, including free downloads and tutorials go to http://www.emofree.com

I work as an Energy Practitioner and am a Member of AAMET (Association for the Advancement of Meridian Energy Therapies) and GRCCT  (General Regulatory Council for Complimentary Therapists). I am also a Member of the NHS Directory of Complimentary and Alternative Practitioners which is available to  GPs and members of the public (UK). For more information http://www.mindbodyEFT.co.uk or call 0845 0542898 (UK local rate)

EFT and PTDS

How can EFT help with PTSD?

EFT works by balancing the bodies energy system by stimulating the end of certain energy meridian points on the upper part of the body. It can be described as an emotional acupuncture. Physical symptoms in the body such as anger, sadness, grief, nightmares, depression are caused by blockages in the bodies energy system. Our body is wired up with electricity and just as electricity needs a to flow to a light bulb, so our body’s energy system needs to flow freely. When it gets blocked we experience physical discomfort.

So back to PTSD. Your body cannot tell the difference between a memory and what is real, and when it feels threatened it goes into full alert Fight or Flight response. We need this ‘emergency’ protection in everyday life to keep us safe. However, if you have had traumatic experiences in the past, it can take very little to ‘trigger’ off a memory which your body can mistake for reality in the present day, and you will be flooded with the same physical anxieties that you experienced during your trauma in the past. Memories can be triggered off by something someone says, a facial expression, a noise, a colour, a smell… so many triggers in everyday life.

EFT stands for Emotional Freedom Technique and it does what it says. It is a technique which give you Emotional Freedom. It differs from other therapies as it is a technique that you can learn to do on yourself.

What can you expect? During a session you would be asked to remember some trauma from the past and whilst focussing on this memory (we are trained in using techniques to help you remember in as painless a way possible), your body would be experiencing an emotional intensity. You would give this intensity a number and remember it so as to measure the success of the EFT session (the number would be expected to go down significantly – often going to a zero). Once you have your number you would be shown the technique of EFT, which involves ‘tapping’ with the fingertips on certain acupuncture points. As the session progresses you will feel the body is more relaxed and balanced. Negative emotions will have dissolved and will no longer be triggered by the thoughts of the traumatic memories. Memories usually reveal many ‘hidden’ aspects and we would work on them as they come to the surface, unfolding the layers (a bit like peeling away the layers of an onion) until the memory can be recalled with the body and mind remaining in balance.

The best way to explain the success of EFT is to show you. If my clients can honestly say that they have experienced no relief with EFT during our session, I refund their money. I haven’t had to do this yet.

Please contact me for a no obligation chat to see if EFT can help you. Sessions can be done effectively over the phone. See my website for more info http://mindbodyeft.co.uk

Important note: While EFT has produced remarkable clinical results, it must still be considered to be in the experimental stage. I am not a trained doctor and I offer EFT as a Therapist and Personal Life Coach. Please consult qualified health practitioners regarding your use of EFT.

I am a member of the NHS Directory of Complimentary & Alternative Practitioners (UK)

Free EFT to help with the emotional side of cancer

Today, the news headlines say “depression cuts cancer survival”  See article The researchers of the University of British Columbia team say (in studies including 9,417 patients) that death rates were up to 25% higher in patients showing symptoms of depression. Further into the article they say researchers stressed that “overall, the increased risk of dying from cancer due to depression was small – so patients should not feel they had to maintain a positive attitude to beat their disease”.

When we hear and read all of the inspirational stories of men and women who have beaten cancer, I feel there is little doubt that we can see these individuals have taken on and won the emotional battle as well as the physical disease.

A body that is emotionally free of trauma stands a better chance of healing. It is what it is designed to do.

I use EFT – Emotional Freedom Technique, working with Clients on emotional issues from the past (usually suppressed) which are holding them back in the present. When you have negative emotions/experiences, they cause blockages in your bodies energetic system  (think of beaver dams in rivers, blocking the flow of water) and this may contribute and/or cause physical disease. By stimulating the ends of certain meridian energy points, whilst focussing on emotions that come up, we can balance the bodies energy system and get the energy to flow normally again, freeing the body up to do what it is naturally designed to do – heal itself.

I have chosen to do a small percentage of my work without charge. If you are a cancer patient in that place right now, and you can feel that there is a chink of light inside, of sense of hope. If you think that you can help your body heal, by letting go of emotional traumas from the past, then I would like to see if I can help you. I am offering this as a voluntary service. No fee. Just help. Have a look at my website www.mindbodyEFT.co.uk and send me an email if you are interested. I am registered as a complimentary therapist with the NHS – please see FAQ on website