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Top 5 Tips for Law of Attraction

Law of Attraction1. The Law of Attraction involves trust. You have to trust that the universe will do its bit.

2. Remembering to meet it half way, if opportunity is knocking on your door, it is no good turning the volume up on your TV!

3. Stop looking for evidence to show that the Law of Attraction doesn’t work. Remember that whatever you think is, in itself, an affirmation, that the universe WILL listen to.

4. With every thought, you are creating your reality. So make your thoughts amazing

5. Embracing the Law of Attraction is surrendering the need to blame others for where you are. Law of Attraction is about you controlling you. You don’t need to control others, give them the space and freedom to follow their own path.

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Throw your pebbles away

pebblesDid your day have a bad start this morning? Who do you blame? The kids, the alarm clock, the economy, the weather, the car, the traffic, the traffic lights, the road works? Will you get home tonight in a bad mood? Who will you blame? Your boss, your collegues, the kids, the economy, the car, the traffic, the traffic lights, the road works?

After an Evening with Deepak Chopra, in September I queued up with everyone else at the ticket machine in the carpark. After spending 3 hours in a, never to repeated (for some) inspirational, potentially life changing environment, it didn’t take long – maybe 15 minutes tops, for people to start moaning! Blaming the long queues on the inadequate number of ticket machines. Blaming the slow people in front of them who didn’t have the right money or the even slower ones who were confused as to how the machine worked anyway! They moaned, but they didn’t help!

The world is not perfect. It never has been and it never will be. There will always be bad news on the TV, there will always be problems with the government, there will always be problems with housing markets and unemployment. There will always be problems with starvation and disease. There will always be poverty. There will always be businesses going under. There will always be job losses. There will always be death. There will always be tragedy. There will always be natural disasters. There will always be climate change. There will always be leaks in the roof, cars that won’t start, people that push buttons. There will always be ……

…. there will always be opportunities.

If we don’t like a politician, let’s accept it and give our focus and energy to the politician that we do like and trust. If we are troubled by the ‘badness’ in the world, then let us focus on doing something good – better still let us do random acts of kindness for no reward, acknowledgement or praise! Let’s choose to be unconditional for a day, with no judgement or critism. Notice how many times we have to stop ourselves from having a moan or a dig at someone or something else. Let’s congratulate ourselves for noticing how well we are doing. Reward ourselves for making the conscious effort to do things differently.

I was once asked why I don’t participate in anti-war demonstrations. I said that I will never do that, but as soon as you have a pro-peace rally, I’ll be there.
Mother Teresa

We  will always have choices.

We are all individuals making up the whole. Instead find fault in the world outside of us, let’s choose to look inside. Choose to take responsibility for our part in the world, that is the part we can truly make a difference with. Choose to know that everyone immediately in it, is affected by us and our choices.

Moaning is easy and lazy.

Today, choose to notice every time you have something negative to say about someone or something and make an effort to replace the negative with a positive. If you can’t think of anything positive, then choose not to say anything at all and instead to be grateful for something you have in your life no matter how hard that may be. If you are reading this, be grateful for the sight in your eyes.

We carry our thoughts around all day. Imagine your negative thoughts are pebbles in a back pack. The weight would soon have you feeling down and heavy. Imagine catching one negative thought, turning it into a positive and taking a pebble out of your back pack and throwing it far, far away. Knowing that with each step you take towards being more positive, you are lightening your load. Noticing that instead of trudging wearily through your day (existing) – you start walking with a spring in your step (living)!

If everyone chose to do this for one day, think what a difference it would make not just to you, but to those around you. To your relationships. To your children. To the everyone you meet in your day.

How can EFT help with Trauma?

j0182676EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) is an energy psychology that was founded in the mid 1990’s by Gary Craig, a Stanford Engineer, following his studies with Roger Callahan in Thought Field Therapy. As the public demand for alternative medicines is growing we are starting to see and hear more and more about the successes of EFT in the Media, in many areas including PTSD.

EFT is based on the belief that all negative emotions are a result of an imbalance in the body energy system. Eastern traditions have been aware of the meridians of energy for thousands of years. The meridian network was detailed in the first medical account of acupuncture in The Yellow Emperor’s Classic of Internal Medicine, which dates from the Han Dynasty (206 BCE to 220 ACE). A simple way to describe EFT would be that it is like emotional acupuncture, without the needles.

An EFT therapist works by tapping (teaching the Client to tap) with the fingertips on certain meridian points, stimulating the blocked energy so that is starts flowing freely again. Whilst tapping, the Client focusses on negative feelings, thoughts and emotions and experiences rapid and often long lasting relief, as the body and mind become calmed and energetically balanced.

One of the areas that EFT is most effective in is Trauma. When you experience a traumatic event, it is stored not only in your memory but in your body also. It is not uncommon for sickness and disease to be diagnosed shortly after the experience of trauma. The mind and body operate as one.

The mind is not able to tell the difference between what is happening in the present moment and what is a memory. It can be triggered by anything which it perceives as a threat and the body reacts instinctively in order to protect us. You may experience physical symptoms such as increased heart rate, sweating, shaking, nightmares, insomnia, mood swings, memories of destruction, pain or death, tensions or pain in the body.

For example, if you were the driver who had survived a severe car crash, and before the moment of impact you saw in the rear view mirror a red truck hurtling towards you, then the chances are, in the future (if you ever drive again), when you look into the rearview mirror and see a red truck coming up behind you, you will experience the same rush of physical symptoms that you had just before the original accident.

If you were beaten or abused as a child (or adult) you may be triggered by a smell, a location, a tone of voice or a facial expression and you would immediately feel an emotional intensity.

An EFT Therapist would guide you through these emotional and physical intensities. You would recall the traumatic memory and tap on the meridian points to calm down any anxieties that come up as a result. It is important to work with an experienced Therapist as they will have been trained in techniques such as the Tearless Trauma Technique which allow you, the client, to recall any incident in a safe and pain free environment.

Sometimes relief is experienced almost immediately. The memory is not taken away, instead the negative emotions are neutralized so that you do not have to relive the physical symptoms of the trauma over and over again, as if you were there.

EFT does not replace medical treatments and you should always seek advice from your Doctor before using EFT, this is especially important if you have depression.

Here are some interesting video links, showing EFT sessions live

Video interview with Celia Kane,  diagnosed with PTSD, Fibromyalgia and Chronic Fatigue Syndrome

Video footage was recorded working with War Veterans from Vietnam and Iraq and shows clearly how EFT works with PTSD go to http://www.emofree.com/freevideos.aspx and click on the video EFT for War Veterans.

This lady took part of one of Gary Craig’s earlier training workshops and this session was recorded with permission and is included in Gary’s DVD library. It shows just how EFT helped her with her childhood sexual abuse.

For more information on EFT and a whole library of information, including free downloads and tutorials go to http://www.emofree.com

I work as an Energy Practitioner and am a Member of AAMET (Association for the Advancement of Meridian Energy Therapies) and GRCCT  (General Regulatory Council for Complimentary Therapists). I am also a Member of the NHS Directory of Complimentary and Alternative Practitioners which is available to  GPs and members of the public (UK). For more information http://www.mindbodyEFT.co.uk or call 0845 0542898 (UK local rate)

Do you believe in luck?

EFT four leaf cloverI don’t believe in luck. Every time I hear someone say “oh, he/she’s lucky to be/do/have that” I get niggled. Luck has nothing to do with it.

When a child hits a tennis ball on his third week of tennis lessons, is it luck or could it just be that he is trying really hard and his hard work is paying off?

When famous golfer Gary Player had to negotiate his way out of a sand trap, he used all his powers of concentration, he focussed, rehearsed the shot mentally and when he played his shot his ball landed half a meter from the pin. A spectator shouted out to him “Hey Gary, that was a really lucky shot” and he replied “I guess you’re right, but you know, it’s a funny thing; the more I practice the better I become and the better I become, the luckier I get”

Was Thomas Edison lucky to be the inventor of the light bulb, after having tried one thousand nine hundred and ninety nine times to get it right? Or did he just stick with it and work at it again, and again, and again…. never giving up on finding new ways of how not to make a light bulb!

When a baby toddles his first six steps before landing on his bottom, we say he was so very, very clever. We hug him, kiss him, encourage him to do it again. He didn’t take his first steps because of luck. He took them because he tried again and again and again. It wasn’t luck that made him speak his first words, he practiced again and again and again. We heard him!

When we search for a four leaf clover and find one our day may get better. It is not the clover that will make our day better – our day will change as a result of our expectations.

Don’t wait for luck to make a difference in your life. Choose to feel the anticipation and the excitement of the life you want now and don’t give up. Practice! Try harder. Try again and again and again to discover new ways to live your dreams.

My evening with Deepak Chopra

My Evening with Deepak Chopra Last Saturday I spent the evening with Deepak Chopra! Well, okay so did lots of others but I am sure that noticed me….. I’d show you the picture of him signing my books but it shows the back of my head (my best side?) and he is looking in the opposite direction – never mind, there was definitely a spiritual connection somewhere!

On a more serious note, let’s talk about the mind and body connection. Two people get sick, one has a positive attitude and one doesn’t – who is more likely to get better? It’s obviously not that simple, but the reality is that the body stands a far better chance of healing itself (the job it was born to do by the way), if the mind is operating on a good healthy vibrational level. In Wayne Dyer’s book There is a Spiritual Solution to every problem, he talks about our energetic frequencies and how we are all born with the potential to have cancer and other diseases and those operating on a lower frequency level i.e. those who are depressed or angry or living with very negative emotions, are more likely to provide an environment in the body for disease to thrive. The further up the energetic scale you go, the healthier you are likely to be (or to become).

Emotion is Energy in Motion (E-Motion get it?!), if your emotions are low, then your energy is not flowing as it should and when your body energy system is not flowing freely, you are susceptable to sickness and disease.

It is not the job of the Doctor to MAKE you better. Medical practices are there to help you keep well. They are there to help you and that is the key. You need to also help yourself. Your body and mind is your responsibilty and you can make a difference to the way your body heals itself. If you have negative trauma in your past, if you have anger, hate, grief or resentment in your memory then you have it in your body. If you have it in your body it will manifest itself as sickness. Freeing yourself from the past emotionally in turn frees your body up to do what it was designed to do.

Our bodies are miracles in progress. Were you aware that the body you went to sleep in 2 nights ago is not the same body that you are in now? Did you know that we make a new liver every 6 weeks, we renew our skin every month, and 98% of all the atoms in our body are replaced every year. In 4 years your body will have replaced itself completely, right down to its last atom!

Truly hard to get your head around isn’t it. If you are interested to find out more about how our emotions affect us physically I would recommend a reading The Molecules of Emotion by Candace Pert, PhD.

I came away from my evening with Deepak with my mind bent like a pretzel. There were elements that were truly beyond me and elements that I could understand – those were the bits I liked best! I followed my instincts when I left the venue and my sat nav was still trying to find itself. I turned right instead of left and got stuck in the centre of Manchester trying to get out at 11pm on a Saturday night! Ho hum…

It gave me time to reflect……was Deepak Chopra really wearing sparkley glasses??!

Adjusting the trim of your sail

Adjusting the trim of your sail If you are a sailor, then you will appreciate the need for keeping that ‘weather eye on the horizon’. The sea is constantly changing, forever in motion and unpredictably feminine in many ways – everything can change in a matter of minutes!

As a skilled sailor, when the conditions around you change you re-assess and you alter the set of your sail. Perhaps you’ll reach your destination as planned or maybe you’ll make the decision to make for port and take shelter until the storm passes.

Us Sailors are smart you know – on the sea…. I wonder if we are so smart on dry land, I suspect not!

Advice here is don’t wish for less problems, wish for better skills to deal with them (or something similar which I think originated from Jim Rohn).

Have a plan, set goals and be prepared to adjust the set of YOUR sails when unexpected conditions arise. Always know exactly where you are on your journey at any given time and chart your progress regularly.

Oh yes, and it’s polite not to tweak other peoples sails, even if you think they are off course – they’re on their own journey, leave them be.

Happy sailing!