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Losing your marbles

I don’t know where this came from (if anyone would enlighten me that would be great!), this is pure inspiration for those of us who really do want to live life the best way we can. I’d love to hear your comments!

Fill a jar with marbles todayA few weeks ago, I was shuffling toward the kitchen with a steaming cup of coffee in one hand and the morning paper in the other. What began as a typical Saturday morning turned into one of those lessons that life seems to hand you from time to time. Let me tell you about it.

I turned the volume up on my radio in order to listen to a Saturday morning talk show. I heard an older sounding chap with a golden voice. You know the kind, he sounded like he should be in the broadcasting business himself.

He was talking about “a thousand marbles” to someone named “Tom.” I was intrigued and sat down to listen to what he had to say.

“Well, Tom, it sure sounds like you’re busy with your job. I’m sure they pay you well but it’s a shame you have to be away from home and your Family so much. Hard to believe a young fellow should have to work sixty or seventy hours a week to make ends meet. Too bad you missed your daughter’s dance recital.”

He continued, “Let me tell you something Tom, something that has helped me keep a good perspective on my own priorities.”

And that’s when he began to explain his theory of “a thousand marbles”

“You see, I sat down one day and did a little arithmetic. The average person lives about seventy-five years. I know, some live more and some live less, but on average, folks live about seventy-five years.”

“Now then, I multiplied 75 times 52 and I came up with 3900 which is the number of Saturdays that the average person has in their entire lifetime. Now stick with me Tom, I’m getting to the important part.”

“It took me until I was fifty-five years old to think about all this in any detail,” he went on, “and by that time I had lived through over twenty-eight hundred Saturdays. I got to thinking that if I lived to be seventy-five, I only had about a thousand of them left to enjoy.”

“So I went to a toy store and bought every single marble they had. I ended up having to visit three toy stores to roundup 1000 marbles. I took them home and put them inside of a large, clear plastic container right here in my workshop next to the radio. Every Saturday since then, I have taken one marble out and have thrown it away”

“I found that by watching the marbles diminish, I focused more on the really important things in life. There is nothing like watching your time here on this earth run out to help get your priorities straight.”

“Now let me tell you one last thing before I sign-off with you and take my lovely wife out for breakfast.

This morning, I took the very last marble out of the container. I figure if I make it until next Saturday then I have been blessed with a little extra time to be with my loved ones……

“It was nice to talk to you Tom, I hope you spend more time with your loved ones, and I hope to meet you again someday. Have a good morning!”

You could have heard a pin drop when he finished. Even the show’s moderator didn’t have anything to say for a few moments. I guess he gave us all a lot to think about. I had planned to do some work that morning, then go to the
gym. Instead, I went upstairs and woke my wife up with a kiss. “C’mon honey, I’m taking you and the kids to breakfast.”

“What brought this on?” she asked with a smile. “Oh, nothing special,” I said. “It has just been a long time since we spent a Saturday together with the kids. Hey, can we stop at a toy store while we’re out? I need to buy some marbles.”

HAVE A GREAT WEEK AND MAY ALL SATURDAYS BE SPECIAL, AND MAY YOU HAVE MANY HAPPY YEARS AFTER YOU LOSE ALL YOUR MARBLES!


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Top 5 Tips for Law of Attraction

Law of Attraction1. The Law of Attraction involves trust. You have to trust that the universe will do its bit.

2. Remembering to meet it half way, if opportunity is knocking on your door, it is no good turning the volume up on your TV!

3. Stop looking for evidence to show that the Law of Attraction doesn’t work. Remember that whatever you think is, in itself, an affirmation, that the universe WILL listen to.

4. With every thought, you are creating your reality. So make your thoughts amazing

5. Embracing the Law of Attraction is surrendering the need to blame others for where you are. Law of Attraction is about you controlling you. You don’t need to control others, give them the space and freedom to follow their own path.

Do you believe in luck?

EFT four leaf cloverI don’t believe in luck. Every time I hear someone say “oh, he/she’s lucky to be/do/have that” I get niggled. Luck has nothing to do with it.

When a child hits a tennis ball on his third week of tennis lessons, is it luck or could it just be that he is trying really hard and his hard work is paying off?

When famous golfer Gary Player had to negotiate his way out of a sand trap, he used all his powers of concentration, he focussed, rehearsed the shot mentally and when he played his shot his ball landed half a meter from the pin. A spectator shouted out to him “Hey Gary, that was a really lucky shot” and he replied “I guess you’re right, but you know, it’s a funny thing; the more I practice the better I become and the better I become, the luckier I get”

Was Thomas Edison lucky to be the inventor of the light bulb, after having tried one thousand nine hundred and ninety nine times to get it right? Or did he just stick with it and work at it again, and again, and again…. never giving up on finding new ways of how not to make a light bulb!

When a baby toddles his first six steps before landing on his bottom, we say he was so very, very clever. We hug him, kiss him, encourage him to do it again. He didn’t take his first steps because of luck. He took them because he tried again and again and again. It wasn’t luck that made him speak his first words, he practiced again and again and again. We heard him!

When we search for a four leaf clover and find one our day may get better. It is not the clover that will make our day better – our day will change as a result of our expectations.

Don’t wait for luck to make a difference in your life. Choose to feel the anticipation and the excitement of the life you want now and don’t give up. Practice! Try harder. Try again and again and again to discover new ways to live your dreams.

Who pressed your buttons?

Do people press your buttons? Does something that happens in the morning, still bug you in the afternoon? In the evening? AND when you go to bed that night?

There is a story of two monks on a pilgrimage who had travelled far during the rainy season. They needed to cross a dangerous river which had burst it’s banks. Standing by the edge of the water was a finely dressed and attractive young woman and she pleaded with the two monks to help her across. The monks were of an order that were forbidden to speak or to touch women. The younger of the monks turned away and ignored her, but the older monk swept her up onto his shoulder and carried her across putting her down safe and sound on the other side. They parted company with the woman and continued on their travels.

The younger Monk was furious and he went on and on, berating the older monk, accusing him of betraying his order and his vows. Who did he think he was? Was was he thinking? Did he realise what he had done? What right had he to do this? He was the eldest, and should have been setting an example! For miles they continued their travels and eventually, after hours of continuous scolding, they came to a clearing. The elder monk stopped  and turned to face the younger. After a moment of silence, he said in a soft voice, gentle with compassion “my brother, I put that woman down an hour ago. It is you that is still carrying her”

If someone cut you up on the roundabout, this morning on the way to work, and flipped you the bird and you are still angry about it when you get in the car to drive home – consider this…..

If someone gives a gift to you of anger, and you do not accept this gift. Who does the anger belong to?

Consider this and GROW!


Adjusting the trim of your sail

Adjusting the trim of your sail If you are a sailor, then you will appreciate the need for keeping that ‘weather eye on the horizon’. The sea is constantly changing, forever in motion and unpredictably feminine in many ways – everything can change in a matter of minutes!

As a skilled sailor, when the conditions around you change you re-assess and you alter the set of your sail. Perhaps you’ll reach your destination as planned or maybe you’ll make the decision to make for port and take shelter until the storm passes.

Us Sailors are smart you know – on the sea…. I wonder if we are so smart on dry land, I suspect not!

Advice here is don’t wish for less problems, wish for better skills to deal with them (or something similar which I think originated from Jim Rohn).

Have a plan, set goals and be prepared to adjust the set of YOUR sails when unexpected conditions arise. Always know exactly where you are on your journey at any given time and chart your progress regularly.

Oh yes, and it’s polite not to tweak other peoples sails, even if you think they are off course – they’re on their own journey, leave them be.

Happy sailing!

Will You Listen Today?

EFT listening
When we listen to people talk about their experiences and the choices they have made, do we really listen? I mean do we listen without making it personal. Personal, about us?

When we hear someone else’s story, our brain computes the information (or our perception of the information) and searches through it’s ‘My Life Experiences database’ to find something to match. It helps us to understand. When our brain finds the information it thinks it is looking for, we have instant access to ‘our story’.

Our story is sometimes bigger and better, more dramatic, more tragic. Our listening skills are then distracted by our need – need for acknowledgement of our experiences. Or maybe our story is smaller, not so interesting or exciting, no wow factor and the we feel, unimportant and dull thus being distracted with feelings of inadequacy, resentment and jealousy.

Are we still listening in all of this? And what about when we believe we know what’s best for others? That’s a good distraction too!

Strong opinions over the way other people live their live and loves are a reflection of what is going on inside of us at that particular time. We may believe that we know what is better for them, because we are close to them, have known them for a while or because, lets face it, we just know we know better! But, you cannot truly know if someone should be doing something differently. You can only know that if you were in that person’s shoes you might do that something differently.

And that makes a difference. Truth is, you are not in that person’s shoes.

To be in their shoes, you would have had to have lived their life. To have had their parents. To have gone to the same schools and colleges. Got the same grades and gone on to get the same job. To have had all of their experiences. To have had all of their heartaches, joys and celebrations. To have experienced all of their insecurities, their love, their hate. To have had their first success, their first failure. To have made exactly the same choices as them, involving exactly the same people at exactly the same time. Unless you are living in a parallel universe, you are not in that person’s shoes, and you never will be.

We are all different and we all have something to contribute. We are all born with a place in the world and we can all make a difference to those around us.

I wonder how many people I will listen to today 🙂 how about you?

Difference between a friend and a life coach

You’ve got friends and family, why do you need a Life Coach?

Your friends and family have known you for a long time. They have been with you through the thick and thin and the ups and downs of your life to date. Because of this intimacy it is sometimes difficult for someone close to support you in a way that will help you grow as the person you are today, here and now.

They are aware of all the mistakes you have made in the past. They have opinions on how you should approach certain situations and lets face it, love ‘em to bits, they think they know you better than you know yourself! This makes for little growth outside of your comfort (or non-comfort) zone, and may push the boundaries of their comfort zones also. If you change, then your relationships around you may change and that can be very unsettling for those around you.

A life coach comes into your life with no pre-conceived ideas about who you are or what you are, and are not, capable of. They are not there to judge you, or tell you how you should be doing things. Neither are they there to tell you all the things that you want to hear (oops, you probably didn’t want to hear that!). They will not hold your past over you, to be retrieved and used in evidence against you in all of those “I told you so”  moments – and there are usually a few of those!!

No, a when you choose me as your Life Coach I promise to do the following:-

  1. provide unconditional support to you, in a nonjudgemental and safe environment
  2. believe 100% in your personal ability to achieve, no matter what your history or what your friends, colleagues or family say
  3. identify the obstacles and self-limiting beliefs that have been holding you back and remove them
  4. stimulate, challenge, motivate and if that doesn’t work….bully you!!
  5. not let you off the hook or to accept excuses!
  6. be there for you
  7. GET RESULTS!!!

It doesn’t matter what position you hold in life whether a CEO, student, receptionist, homemaker, retiree – you could be anyone and I will work with you as an individual and not a label.

For more info http://www.lovingyourlife.co.uk All enquiries and coaching are completely confidential.