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Top 5 Tips for Law of Attraction

Law of Attraction1. The Law of Attraction involves trust. You have to trust that the universe will do its bit.

2. Remembering to meet it half way, if opportunity is knocking on your door, it is no good turning the volume up on your TV!

3. Stop looking for evidence to show that the Law of Attraction doesn’t work. Remember that whatever you think is, in itself, an affirmation, that the universe WILL listen to.

4. With every thought, you are creating your reality. So make your thoughts amazing

5. Embracing the Law of Attraction is surrendering the need to blame others for where you are. Law of Attraction is about you controlling you. You don’t need to control others, give them the space and freedom to follow their own path.

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Throw your pebbles away

pebblesDid your day have a bad start this morning? Who do you blame? The kids, the alarm clock, the economy, the weather, the car, the traffic, the traffic lights, the road works? Will you get home tonight in a bad mood? Who will you blame? Your boss, your collegues, the kids, the economy, the car, the traffic, the traffic lights, the road works?

After an Evening with Deepak Chopra, in September I queued up with everyone else at the ticket machine in the carpark. After spending 3 hours in a, never to repeated (for some) inspirational, potentially life changing environment, it didn’t take long – maybe 15 minutes tops, for people to start moaning! Blaming the long queues on the inadequate number of ticket machines. Blaming the slow people in front of them who didn’t have the right money or the even slower ones who were confused as to how the machine worked anyway! They moaned, but they didn’t help!

The world is not perfect. It never has been and it never will be. There will always be bad news on the TV, there will always be problems with the government, there will always be problems with housing markets and unemployment. There will always be problems with starvation and disease. There will always be poverty. There will always be businesses going under. There will always be job losses. There will always be death. There will always be tragedy. There will always be natural disasters. There will always be climate change. There will always be leaks in the roof, cars that won’t start, people that push buttons. There will always be ……

…. there will always be opportunities.

If we don’t like a politician, let’s accept it and give our focus and energy to the politician that we do like and trust. If we are troubled by the ‘badness’ in the world, then let us focus on doing something good – better still let us do random acts of kindness for no reward, acknowledgement or praise! Let’s choose to be unconditional for a day, with no judgement or critism. Notice how many times we have to stop ourselves from having a moan or a dig at someone or something else. Let’s congratulate ourselves for noticing how well we are doing. Reward ourselves for making the conscious effort to do things differently.

I was once asked why I don’t participate in anti-war demonstrations. I said that I will never do that, but as soon as you have a pro-peace rally, I’ll be there.
Mother Teresa

We  will always have choices.

We are all individuals making up the whole. Instead find fault in the world outside of us, let’s choose to look inside. Choose to take responsibility for our part in the world, that is the part we can truly make a difference with. Choose to know that everyone immediately in it, is affected by us and our choices.

Moaning is easy and lazy.

Today, choose to notice every time you have something negative to say about someone or something and make an effort to replace the negative with a positive. If you can’t think of anything positive, then choose not to say anything at all and instead to be grateful for something you have in your life no matter how hard that may be. If you are reading this, be grateful for the sight in your eyes.

We carry our thoughts around all day. Imagine your negative thoughts are pebbles in a back pack. The weight would soon have you feeling down and heavy. Imagine catching one negative thought, turning it into a positive and taking a pebble out of your back pack and throwing it far, far away. Knowing that with each step you take towards being more positive, you are lightening your load. Noticing that instead of trudging wearily through your day (existing) – you start walking with a spring in your step (living)!

If everyone chose to do this for one day, think what a difference it would make not just to you, but to those around you. To your relationships. To your children. To the everyone you meet in your day.

Who pressed your buttons?

Do people press your buttons? Does something that happens in the morning, still bug you in the afternoon? In the evening? AND when you go to bed that night?

There is a story of two monks on a pilgrimage who had travelled far during the rainy season. They needed to cross a dangerous river which had burst it’s banks. Standing by the edge of the water was a finely dressed and attractive young woman and she pleaded with the two monks to help her across. The monks were of an order that were forbidden to speak or to touch women. The younger of the monks turned away and ignored her, but the older monk swept her up onto his shoulder and carried her across putting her down safe and sound on the other side. They parted company with the woman and continued on their travels.

The younger Monk was furious and he went on and on, berating the older monk, accusing him of betraying his order and his vows. Who did he think he was? Was was he thinking? Did he realise what he had done? What right had he to do this? He was the eldest, and should have been setting an example! For miles they continued their travels and eventually, after hours of continuous scolding, they came to a clearing. The elder monk stopped  and turned to face the younger. After a moment of silence, he said in a soft voice, gentle with compassion “my brother, I put that woman down an hour ago. It is you that is still carrying her”

If someone cut you up on the roundabout, this morning on the way to work, and flipped you the bird and you are still angry about it when you get in the car to drive home – consider this…..

If someone gives a gift to you of anger, and you do not accept this gift. Who does the anger belong to?

Consider this and GROW!


My evening with Deepak Chopra

My Evening with Deepak Chopra Last Saturday I spent the evening with Deepak Chopra! Well, okay so did lots of others but I am sure that noticed me….. I’d show you the picture of him signing my books but it shows the back of my head (my best side?) and he is looking in the opposite direction – never mind, there was definitely a spiritual connection somewhere!

On a more serious note, let’s talk about the mind and body connection. Two people get sick, one has a positive attitude and one doesn’t – who is more likely to get better? It’s obviously not that simple, but the reality is that the body stands a far better chance of healing itself (the job it was born to do by the way), if the mind is operating on a good healthy vibrational level. In Wayne Dyer’s book There is a Spiritual Solution to every problem, he talks about our energetic frequencies and how we are all born with the potential to have cancer and other diseases and those operating on a lower frequency level i.e. those who are depressed or angry or living with very negative emotions, are more likely to provide an environment in the body for disease to thrive. The further up the energetic scale you go, the healthier you are likely to be (or to become).

Emotion is Energy in Motion (E-Motion get it?!), if your emotions are low, then your energy is not flowing as it should and when your body energy system is not flowing freely, you are susceptable to sickness and disease.

It is not the job of the Doctor to MAKE you better. Medical practices are there to help you keep well. They are there to help you and that is the key. You need to also help yourself. Your body and mind is your responsibilty and you can make a difference to the way your body heals itself. If you have negative trauma in your past, if you have anger, hate, grief or resentment in your memory then you have it in your body. If you have it in your body it will manifest itself as sickness. Freeing yourself from the past emotionally in turn frees your body up to do what it was designed to do.

Our bodies are miracles in progress. Were you aware that the body you went to sleep in 2 nights ago is not the same body that you are in now? Did you know that we make a new liver every 6 weeks, we renew our skin every month, and 98% of all the atoms in our body are replaced every year. In 4 years your body will have replaced itself completely, right down to its last atom!

Truly hard to get your head around isn’t it. If you are interested to find out more about how our emotions affect us physically I would recommend a reading The Molecules of Emotion by Candace Pert, PhD.

I came away from my evening with Deepak with my mind bent like a pretzel. There were elements that were truly beyond me and elements that I could understand – those were the bits I liked best! I followed my instincts when I left the venue and my sat nav was still trying to find itself. I turned right instead of left and got stuck in the centre of Manchester trying to get out at 11pm on a Saturday night! Ho hum…

It gave me time to reflect……was Deepak Chopra really wearing sparkley glasses??!

Adjusting the trim of your sail

Adjusting the trim of your sail If you are a sailor, then you will appreciate the need for keeping that ‘weather eye on the horizon’. The sea is constantly changing, forever in motion and unpredictably feminine in many ways – everything can change in a matter of minutes!

As a skilled sailor, when the conditions around you change you re-assess and you alter the set of your sail. Perhaps you’ll reach your destination as planned or maybe you’ll make the decision to make for port and take shelter until the storm passes.

Us Sailors are smart you know – on the sea…. I wonder if we are so smart on dry land, I suspect not!

Advice here is don’t wish for less problems, wish for better skills to deal with them (or something similar which I think originated from Jim Rohn).

Have a plan, set goals and be prepared to adjust the set of YOUR sails when unexpected conditions arise. Always know exactly where you are on your journey at any given time and chart your progress regularly.

Oh yes, and it’s polite not to tweak other peoples sails, even if you think they are off course – they’re on their own journey, leave them be.

Happy sailing!

Will You Listen Today?

EFT listening
When we listen to people talk about their experiences and the choices they have made, do we really listen? I mean do we listen without making it personal. Personal, about us?

When we hear someone else’s story, our brain computes the information (or our perception of the information) and searches through it’s ‘My Life Experiences database’ to find something to match. It helps us to understand. When our brain finds the information it thinks it is looking for, we have instant access to ‘our story’.

Our story is sometimes bigger and better, more dramatic, more tragic. Our listening skills are then distracted by our need – need for acknowledgement of our experiences. Or maybe our story is smaller, not so interesting or exciting, no wow factor and the we feel, unimportant and dull thus being distracted with feelings of inadequacy, resentment and jealousy.

Are we still listening in all of this? And what about when we believe we know what’s best for others? That’s a good distraction too!

Strong opinions over the way other people live their live and loves are a reflection of what is going on inside of us at that particular time. We may believe that we know what is better for them, because we are close to them, have known them for a while or because, lets face it, we just know we know better! But, you cannot truly know if someone should be doing something differently. You can only know that if you were in that person’s shoes you might do that something differently.

And that makes a difference. Truth is, you are not in that person’s shoes.

To be in their shoes, you would have had to have lived their life. To have had their parents. To have gone to the same schools and colleges. Got the same grades and gone on to get the same job. To have had all of their experiences. To have had all of their heartaches, joys and celebrations. To have experienced all of their insecurities, their love, their hate. To have had their first success, their first failure. To have made exactly the same choices as them, involving exactly the same people at exactly the same time. Unless you are living in a parallel universe, you are not in that person’s shoes, and you never will be.

We are all different and we all have something to contribute. We are all born with a place in the world and we can all make a difference to those around us.

I wonder how many people I will listen to today 🙂 how about you?

Difference between a friend and a life coach

You’ve got friends and family, why do you need a Life Coach?

Your friends and family have known you for a long time. They have been with you through the thick and thin and the ups and downs of your life to date. Because of this intimacy it is sometimes difficult for someone close to support you in a way that will help you grow as the person you are today, here and now.

They are aware of all the mistakes you have made in the past. They have opinions on how you should approach certain situations and lets face it, love ‘em to bits, they think they know you better than you know yourself! This makes for little growth outside of your comfort (or non-comfort) zone, and may push the boundaries of their comfort zones also. If you change, then your relationships around you may change and that can be very unsettling for those around you.

A life coach comes into your life with no pre-conceived ideas about who you are or what you are, and are not, capable of. They are not there to judge you, or tell you how you should be doing things. Neither are they there to tell you all the things that you want to hear (oops, you probably didn’t want to hear that!). They will not hold your past over you, to be retrieved and used in evidence against you in all of those “I told you so”  moments – and there are usually a few of those!!

No, a when you choose me as your Life Coach I promise to do the following:-

  1. provide unconditional support to you, in a nonjudgemental and safe environment
  2. believe 100% in your personal ability to achieve, no matter what your history or what your friends, colleagues or family say
  3. identify the obstacles and self-limiting beliefs that have been holding you back and remove them
  4. stimulate, challenge, motivate and if that doesn’t work….bully you!!
  5. not let you off the hook or to accept excuses!
  6. be there for you
  7. GET RESULTS!!!

It doesn’t matter what position you hold in life whether a CEO, student, receptionist, homemaker, retiree – you could be anyone and I will work with you as an individual and not a label.

For more info http://www.lovingyourlife.co.uk All enquiries and coaching are completely confidential.