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Losing your marbles

I don’t know where this came from (if anyone would enlighten me that would be great!), this is pure inspiration for those of us who really do want to live life the best way we can. I’d love to hear your comments!

Fill a jar with marbles todayA few weeks ago, I was shuffling toward the kitchen with a steaming cup of coffee in one hand and the morning paper in the other. What began as a typical Saturday morning turned into one of those lessons that life seems to hand you from time to time. Let me tell you about it.

I turned the volume up on my radio in order to listen to a Saturday morning talk show. I heard an older sounding chap with a golden voice. You know the kind, he sounded like he should be in the broadcasting business himself.

He was talking about “a thousand marbles” to someone named “Tom.” I was intrigued and sat down to listen to what he had to say.

“Well, Tom, it sure sounds like you’re busy with your job. I’m sure they pay you well but it’s a shame you have to be away from home and your Family so much. Hard to believe a young fellow should have to work sixty or seventy hours a week to make ends meet. Too bad you missed your daughter’s dance recital.”

He continued, “Let me tell you something Tom, something that has helped me keep a good perspective on my own priorities.”

And that’s when he began to explain his theory of “a thousand marbles”

“You see, I sat down one day and did a little arithmetic. The average person lives about seventy-five years. I know, some live more and some live less, but on average, folks live about seventy-five years.”

“Now then, I multiplied 75 times 52 and I came up with 3900 which is the number of Saturdays that the average person has in their entire lifetime. Now stick with me Tom, I’m getting to the important part.”

“It took me until I was fifty-five years old to think about all this in any detail,” he went on, “and by that time I had lived through over twenty-eight hundred Saturdays. I got to thinking that if I lived to be seventy-five, I only had about a thousand of them left to enjoy.”

“So I went to a toy store and bought every single marble they had. I ended up having to visit three toy stores to roundup 1000 marbles. I took them home and put them inside of a large, clear plastic container right here in my workshop next to the radio. Every Saturday since then, I have taken one marble out and have thrown it away”

“I found that by watching the marbles diminish, I focused more on the really important things in life. There is nothing like watching your time here on this earth run out to help get your priorities straight.”

“Now let me tell you one last thing before I sign-off with you and take my lovely wife out for breakfast.

This morning, I took the very last marble out of the container. I figure if I make it until next Saturday then I have been blessed with a little extra time to be with my loved ones……

“It was nice to talk to you Tom, I hope you spend more time with your loved ones, and I hope to meet you again someday. Have a good morning!”

You could have heard a pin drop when he finished. Even the show’s moderator didn’t have anything to say for a few moments. I guess he gave us all a lot to think about. I had planned to do some work that morning, then go to the
gym. Instead, I went upstairs and woke my wife up with a kiss. “C’mon honey, I’m taking you and the kids to breakfast.”

“What brought this on?” she asked with a smile. “Oh, nothing special,” I said. “It has just been a long time since we spent a Saturday together with the kids. Hey, can we stop at a toy store while we’re out? I need to buy some marbles.”

HAVE A GREAT WEEK AND MAY ALL SATURDAYS BE SPECIAL, AND MAY YOU HAVE MANY HAPPY YEARS AFTER YOU LOSE ALL YOUR MARBLES!


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Do you believe in luck?

EFT four leaf cloverI don’t believe in luck. Every time I hear someone say “oh, he/she’s lucky to be/do/have that” I get niggled. Luck has nothing to do with it.

When a child hits a tennis ball on his third week of tennis lessons, is it luck or could it just be that he is trying really hard and his hard work is paying off?

When famous golfer Gary Player had to negotiate his way out of a sand trap, he used all his powers of concentration, he focussed, rehearsed the shot mentally and when he played his shot his ball landed half a meter from the pin. A spectator shouted out to him “Hey Gary, that was a really lucky shot” and he replied “I guess you’re right, but you know, it’s a funny thing; the more I practice the better I become and the better I become, the luckier I get”

Was Thomas Edison lucky to be the inventor of the light bulb, after having tried one thousand nine hundred and ninety nine times to get it right? Or did he just stick with it and work at it again, and again, and again…. never giving up on finding new ways of how not to make a light bulb!

When a baby toddles his first six steps before landing on his bottom, we say he was so very, very clever. We hug him, kiss him, encourage him to do it again. He didn’t take his first steps because of luck. He took them because he tried again and again and again. It wasn’t luck that made him speak his first words, he practiced again and again and again. We heard him!

When we search for a four leaf clover and find one our day may get better. It is not the clover that will make our day better – our day will change as a result of our expectations.

Don’t wait for luck to make a difference in your life. Choose to feel the anticipation and the excitement of the life you want now and don’t give up. Practice! Try harder. Try again and again and again to discover new ways to live your dreams.

Will You Listen Today?

EFT listening
When we listen to people talk about their experiences and the choices they have made, do we really listen? I mean do we listen without making it personal. Personal, about us?

When we hear someone else’s story, our brain computes the information (or our perception of the information) and searches through it’s ‘My Life Experiences database’ to find something to match. It helps us to understand. When our brain finds the information it thinks it is looking for, we have instant access to ‘our story’.

Our story is sometimes bigger and better, more dramatic, more tragic. Our listening skills are then distracted by our need – need for acknowledgement of our experiences. Or maybe our story is smaller, not so interesting or exciting, no wow factor and the we feel, unimportant and dull thus being distracted with feelings of inadequacy, resentment and jealousy.

Are we still listening in all of this? And what about when we believe we know what’s best for others? That’s a good distraction too!

Strong opinions over the way other people live their live and loves are a reflection of what is going on inside of us at that particular time. We may believe that we know what is better for them, because we are close to them, have known them for a while or because, lets face it, we just know we know better! But, you cannot truly know if someone should be doing something differently. You can only know that if you were in that person’s shoes you might do that something differently.

And that makes a difference. Truth is, you are not in that person’s shoes.

To be in their shoes, you would have had to have lived their life. To have had their parents. To have gone to the same schools and colleges. Got the same grades and gone on to get the same job. To have had all of their experiences. To have had all of their heartaches, joys and celebrations. To have experienced all of their insecurities, their love, their hate. To have had their first success, their first failure. To have made exactly the same choices as them, involving exactly the same people at exactly the same time. Unless you are living in a parallel universe, you are not in that person’s shoes, and you never will be.

We are all different and we all have something to contribute. We are all born with a place in the world and we can all make a difference to those around us.

I wonder how many people I will listen to today 🙂 how about you?

Difference between a friend and a life coach

You’ve got friends and family, why do you need a Life Coach?

Your friends and family have known you for a long time. They have been with you through the thick and thin and the ups and downs of your life to date. Because of this intimacy it is sometimes difficult for someone close to support you in a way that will help you grow as the person you are today, here and now.

They are aware of all the mistakes you have made in the past. They have opinions on how you should approach certain situations and lets face it, love ‘em to bits, they think they know you better than you know yourself! This makes for little growth outside of your comfort (or non-comfort) zone, and may push the boundaries of their comfort zones also. If you change, then your relationships around you may change and that can be very unsettling for those around you.

A life coach comes into your life with no pre-conceived ideas about who you are or what you are, and are not, capable of. They are not there to judge you, or tell you how you should be doing things. Neither are they there to tell you all the things that you want to hear (oops, you probably didn’t want to hear that!). They will not hold your past over you, to be retrieved and used in evidence against you in all of those “I told you so”  moments – and there are usually a few of those!!

No, a when you choose me as your Life Coach I promise to do the following:-

  1. provide unconditional support to you, in a nonjudgemental and safe environment
  2. believe 100% in your personal ability to achieve, no matter what your history or what your friends, colleagues or family say
  3. identify the obstacles and self-limiting beliefs that have been holding you back and remove them
  4. stimulate, challenge, motivate and if that doesn’t work….bully you!!
  5. not let you off the hook or to accept excuses!
  6. be there for you
  7. GET RESULTS!!!

It doesn’t matter what position you hold in life whether a CEO, student, receptionist, homemaker, retiree – you could be anyone and I will work with you as an individual and not a label.

For more info http://www.lovingyourlife.co.uk All enquiries and coaching are completely confidential.

Fibromyalgia

As a Practitioner of EFT, Emotional Freedom Technique, I  believe that physical disease is a result of imbalances in our energy system (blockages) caused by unresolved past negative emotions.

There is a growing demand in the UK for alternative therapies as a way to support the emotional side of illness and disease. The NHS has a Directory of Complementary & Alternative Practitioners, which is made available to the public and medical practices. Your GP or medical practice MAY be open to the additional support that these therapies offer you. The mind and body work as one and addressing and healing the emotional aspects of physical illness frees the body up to promote its own healing.

For the condition of  Fibromyalgia, for example, there is no ‘cure’ other than the relief from the symptoms. Bestselling author and natural health advocate, Dr. Joseph Mercola uses EFT in his medical practice. “In my experience fibromyalgia is nearly always related to some severe emotional trauma that establishes a series of potentially devastating physical processes, which frequently incapacitate the person.”

If you would like some more information on how EFT might help you, please have a look at my website www.mindbodyeft.co.uk or if you have any questions, please email me on sarah@mindbodyeft.co.uk

For more detailed information on EFT case studies http://www.emofree.com/articles.aspx?id=19

Important note: While EFT has produced remarkable clinical results, it must still be considered to be in the experimental stage and thus practitioners and the public must take complete responsibility for their use of it. I am not a licensed health professional and I offer EFT as an Energy Therapist and Life Coach. Please consult qualified health practitioners regarding your use of EFT.

In the case of serious medical conditions or suspicious symptoms always seek the advice of your medical practitioner, before using EFT. Even if you believe you are clear of ongoing symptoms, always consult with your Doctor before giving up your medication.
Pain is a signal from your body that something is wrong. If it is being subdued by alternative therapies, and keeps returning, consult with your Doctor to understand the medical basis of that pain.

Do you eat when you are sad or happy, or both?

EFT healthy eatingOh my goodness, when did that happen? Why is sitting down all of a sudden so uncomfortable? Hmm, that’ll be for the same reason that it is not a good idea to wear stretchy tops that cling to all the wrong places, in particular around that developing eruption around the waist band. It wasn’t like that a few weeks ago…. honest! Post 40, it definitely takes a lot longer to shift off than to put on. But enough moaning, time to examine what’s happening. I do EFT with clients for weight loss and we focus on getting rid of the negative emotions, which cause anxieties, which cause the cravings. And it works! Beautifully! However, what I have failed to notice over the last few weeks is how happy I have been. Guess what I do when I’m happy…… I celebrate! I eat lots of yummy food as a treat to celebrate my happiness!!! Life is good, I really fancy an Indian takeaway. Life is great, I am so pleased with what I have achieved today and I am loving these Bendicks Bittermints! My little boy earns house points at school and is really chuffed – lets celebrate and eat pizza!!! Okay, now I am starting to see a pattern.

Thinking of patterns…. we react to life in ways that we have been taught. We are taught by our parents (who were taught by their parents, who were taught by their parents), by our teachers (who were taught by their parents and their teachers… who were taught by their parents, who were taught by their parents and their teachers who were taught by their parents….), okay you get the picture.

My son is being taught by me. He is understands that when he falls over and cuts himself, he gets a cuddle and a lollipop. Lesson one, when we are in pain the pain disappears with a lollipop and we get attention.

He understands that when it is time for Mummy to cut his hair, if he doesn’t complain and keeps really still, he gets rewarded with sweets. Lesson two, when you have to do something you don’t want to do, rewarding yourself with treats is a way to get through it. Or, don’t do anything you don’t want to do unless there is a reward for you at the end of it that makes it worth your while.

He learns, that when we have had a great day we love to cuddle up on the sofa, eat pizza and popcorn and watch a movie. Lesson three, when you are happy veg out on the sofa and eat pizza and popcorn!

I shall leave you to draw your own conclusions, whilst I go and find something more comfy to wear!

Closer to, or further away, from your goal today?

I feel like a real juggler at the moment. Two businesses to run, a child to parent and a house to renovate!

I know my weaknesses! I can be very good at keeping myself busy in order to delay making a start on a project that I don’t want to start!

One of the items on my list of ‘things to do before Christmas’ is to remove an old en-suite, which is really a bog in a cupboard, to make room for something new and lovely. For this to happen I need to remove a partition wall. I have been putting it off and putting it off since the beginning of summer. This change is part of an update to my top floor, which needs to be completed by Christmas, so that when my family come and stay, everyone gets a room to sleep in.

So yesterday, I called my plumber to disconnect some old radiators and today I approached my task with an enthusiastic lump hammer!

The point to my sharing this with you is this… the reason for my not starting was that I hadn’t got hold of my plumber. Did I say reason? I meant excuse!

The question I asked myself yesterday was this… “If I don’t make that call to my plumber – is that taking me closer to, or further away from my goal?” Job done. Simples! A small step to get the ball rolling and away we go.

What did you put off doing today? By not doing it, you made a choice. Did that choice take you closer to or further away from your goal?

Right now my goal is to get all the dust and debris out of my hair!