Did your day have a bad start this morning? Who do you blame? The kids, the alarm clock, the economy, the weather, the car, the traffic, the traffic lights, the road works? Will you get home tonight in a bad mood? Who will you blame? Your boss, your collegues, the kids, the economy, the car, the traffic, the traffic lights, the road works?
After an Evening with Deepak Chopra, in September I queued up with everyone else at the ticket machine in the carpark. After spending 3 hours in a, never to repeated (for some) inspirational, potentially life changing environment, it didn’t take long – maybe 15 minutes tops, for people to start moaning! Blaming the long queues on the inadequate number of ticket machines. Blaming the slow people in front of them who didn’t have the right money or the even slower ones who were confused as to how the machine worked anyway! They moaned, but they didn’t help!
The world is not perfect. It never has been and it never will be. There will always be bad news on the TV, there will always be problems with the government, there will always be problems with housing markets and unemployment. There will always be problems with starvation and disease. There will always be poverty. There will always be businesses going under. There will always be job losses. There will always be death. There will always be tragedy. There will always be natural disasters. There will always be climate change. There will always be leaks in the roof, cars that won’t start, people that push buttons. There will always be ……
…. there will always be opportunities.
If we don’t like a politician, let’s accept it and give our focus and energy to the politician that we do like and trust. If we are troubled by the ‘badness’ in the world, then let us focus on doing something good – better still let us do random acts of kindness for no reward, acknowledgement or praise! Let’s choose to be unconditional for a day, with no judgement or critism. Notice how many times we have to stop ourselves from having a moan or a dig at someone or something else. Let’s congratulate ourselves for noticing how well we are doing. Reward ourselves for making the conscious effort to do things differently.
I was once asked why I don’t participate in anti-war demonstrations. I said that I will never do that, but as soon as you have a pro-peace rally, I’ll be there.
We will always have choices.
We are all individuals making up the whole. Instead find fault in the world outside of us, let’s choose to look inside. Choose to take responsibility for our part in the world, that is the part we can truly make a difference with. Choose to know that everyone immediately in it, is affected by us and our choices.
Moaning is easy and lazy.
Today, choose to notice every time you have something negative to say about someone or something and make an effort to replace the negative with a positive. If you can’t think of anything positive, then choose not to say anything at all and instead to be grateful for something you have in your life no matter how hard that may be. If you are reading this, be grateful for the sight in your eyes.
We carry our thoughts around all day. Imagine your negative thoughts are pebbles in a back pack. The weight would soon have you feeling down and heavy. Imagine catching one negative thought, turning it into a positive and taking a pebble out of your back pack and throwing it far, far away. Knowing that with each step you take towards being more positive, you are lightening your load. Noticing that instead of trudging wearily through your day (existing) – you start walking with a spring in your step (living)!
If everyone chose to do this for one day, think what a difference it would make not just to you, but to those around you. To your relationships. To your children. To the everyone you meet in your day.